The things we tell ourselves shape our lives. The thoughts we allow to flow through our mind shape our feelings and behaviors. When challenging opportunities arise we have to be keenly aware of the thoughts we are allowing into mind. These circumstances are ripe for complaining if we are not careful. As we all know complaining sucks the soul and life out of this world. Here are eight truths to tell ourselves to help us stop complaining. Hopefully these help you in your journey to be life giver not soul sucker.
- I am not a victim. Complaining has the power to makes us a victim to our circumstances. A victim mindset keeps one trapped in negativity. This in turn takes one’s focus off hope and the possibility of change.
- I am creative. I have the GUTS (gifts, uniqueness, talents and strengths) to create positive solutions rather than settle for complaining.
- I am living with a purpose and nothing will get in my way of living out my purpose. When you are deeply connected to your purpose for living everything else pails in comparison to that purpose. Negativity will appear so petty and small compared to your great purpose.
- I am joyful. Choose joy. No matter the situation choose joy. Find something to be joyful about. Maybe your joy will come from knowing that you will only have to endure this moment for two more minutes. Wherever your joy comes from hold it as a thought as you walk through the negative circumstance.
- I am strong enough to handle this circumstance. When we complain there is an inner tape playing in our mind, “You can’t handle this situation. Your only way out is to complain.” Complaining weakens your ability to handle life. Choose to believe you are strong enough to handle all of life’s challenges.
- I will find the silver lining. There is always a silver lining. If you look hard enough you will discover it. Be committed to looking for the silver lining. It is worth it.
- I am defined by my values. Having a vibrant connection to the values that define your identity will help in the fight against complaining. Without an emotional connection to your defining values you allow life’s circumstances to define you. Your values anchor you to your true identity when the storms of life beat on you to become someone you are not. Complaining can be an indication that you are in a situation that feels defining. Define your values, so situations won’t be able to define you.
- I am grateful. Gratitude is one of the ultimate perspective changers. When faced with complicated and stressful situations, take time to reflect on all the things in your life that you are grateful for. Better yet, instead of waiting for stressful moments, prepare yourself each day by taking time to record what you are most thankful for. This will help shift your perspective from seeing only negative things to becoming aware of all the positive things in your life. A great place to start is with being grateful for your breath.
I am sure you can add to this conversation with some other complaint killing truths. Please leave your comments so we can all benefit from your wisdom and insight.
