I recently noticed that I slipped into complaining more than I should. Complaining has not helped my life in anyway. Here are some of the things that complain has contributed to my life.
Complaining Leads to More Complaining
The more I complain the more I find to complain about. Essentially complaining about things or people has only increased my attention and focus on complaining more. Complaining takes my focus off the great things life has to offer and puts my focus on all the negative junk in the world. I am using this question to shift my focus from complaining to contentment. “What can I be grateful for at this moment?”
Complaining Takes Control
Complaining has caused me to give up control for the direction my life is heading. When I complain, I am essentially saying “Complaint you may rule my life. I am powerless to change you (complaint) from a negative to a positive.” You always have the power to choose your thoughts, feelings and actions. Victor Frankl said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” What complaints are ruling my life? How can I change the way I am thinking, feeling and acting about these complaints?
Complaining Keeps Solutions Out
Complaining has caused me to see only problems, not solutions. Recently I attended a seminar about looking for solutions to every problem presented to us. In order to live a great life I need to look for solutions to the problems or challenges that come my way. I want to remember that every problem presents opportunities to grow if I look for the solutions. I need to train my brain to look for these opportunities and adjust my perspective on the problem to seek out solutions. This will not be easy but well worth the hard work. When presented with an opportunity to complain, think of a few solutions for the complaint before doing, saying or thinking anything else.
Complaining Makes Me Self-Absorbed
Complaining has caused me to become more self absorbed and not open to positively impacting the lives of others. If I let complaining rule my life, then I make myself unavailable to positively impact others. My vision is clouded with complaints. I can only see complaints and problems. I am not open to seeing ways I can positively impact others. What ways to do you want to positively impact the lives of others?
I would love to hear your solutions to quit complaining and live for your best life.
